Coach, you seem to base your deism (or deist tendency or whatever you want to call it) not on theology or scripture but on your inability to explain why terrible things happen if God's hand is on the world. It seems like that is the real issue.
Biblically, there's no basis for deism. The Bible is full of stories of divine intervention. Heck, God saved Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego in the burning furnace. He raised Lazarus from the dead. He whipped Paul's *** on the road to Damascus and then saved him countless times during his ministry. And of course, the ultimate divine intervention was the sending of Christ to the world to save humanity.
But you disregard all that because you can't answer the question of why bad things happen in a world in which God can and does assert power. Don't you think it's possible that there is an answer to that issue but that you simply don't know it (or don't know it yet)?
By the way, no judgment for wondering. Believe me, I had those same thoughts when my brother died of heart failure five years ago. God raised Lazarus from the dead, but he let my brother (who was a devout follower of Christ) die fully awake and in agony in a Dallas hospital bed while still a young man (only 47). It seemed unfair to me, but after much (yes) thought and prayer, I eventually understood the answer. It's hard to accept, but there is a reason.