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While I do not hold a PhD in psychology, I do have some counseling experience and an above average understanding of the various ways we respond to trauma. Saying that to gently suggest that we all get more familiar with the fact that everyone responds differently. I always cringe a little when we as a collective society respond with “I would’ve done this or that” as a reason to invalidate or even cast doubt on someone’s account of events. Ashley’s social media posts in early 2021 or the lack of portal entrants thus far as an indication that her story may not check out or be solely based on playing time is kind of dangerous.
If we look at the big picture of things that could happen within a program, she’s really not even alleging anything all that scandalous (IMO). My interpretation was that (in her view) this staff and the support system around the campus did not meet expectations in handling her unique situation that seems to have even predated her time on the 40. I am quite sure we all know people in our own lives who deal with abuse in their homes or verbal/physical assaults in the work place and so many other things on a much grander scale (think of the BU scandal) where those who are suffering do not report the incidents in a “timely” manner (if at all) and/or continue to put on brave public faces despite the internal feelings. That should not diminish their voice in the slightest.
I do not believe it was anyones outright intent to deflect or be dismissive so please don’t take this as me making an accusation or casting aspersions, just merely offering a perspective.
If we look at the big picture of things that could happen within a program, she’s really not even alleging anything all that scandalous (IMO). My interpretation was that (in her view) this staff and the support system around the campus did not meet expectations in handling her unique situation that seems to have even predated her time on the 40. I am quite sure we all know people in our own lives who deal with abuse in their homes or verbal/physical assaults in the work place and so many other things on a much grander scale (think of the BU scandal) where those who are suffering do not report the incidents in a “timely” manner (if at all) and/or continue to put on brave public faces despite the internal feelings. That should not diminish their voice in the slightest.
I do not believe it was anyones outright intent to deflect or be dismissive so please don’t take this as me making an accusation or casting aspersions, just merely offering a perspective.