ProdigalHorn
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Blaming "society" is taking it to far. These mass killings are the work of a handful of homicidal sociopaths. Doesn't matter how well you teach if your pupil has no conscience.
Granted, "blaming society" is probably overly vague. But at the same time, we as a society generally accept all kinds of behaviors and attitudes. We as a society generally raise our kids in an environment with a lot of pretty consistent influences, and there are far more negative ones than positive ones. We as a society tolerate much worse behavior now than we ever did - partly because we don't know how to act on social media, and partly because it just seems easier to be mean to people now than it ever did before.
You can't deny that this has an impact on everyone. Every kid who grows up in this culture bears the mark somehow. And most of them manage to get through it more or less OK. The problem ends up being how it impacts the marginalized.
I don't know that there's a way to fix it other than everyone individually doing their best to treat people well and raise their kids with a minimum of help from the Internet. But the point is that we're kidding ourselves to think that kids on the fringe are ever going to go back to just being the weird, bullied, friendless kids that hang out in the AV room. Some of them are going to fight back.
That's what make this really difficult. The government can't fix the issue of kids who grow up feeling disconnected and left out. It can't fix young boys who don't have anywhere to use their pent-up aggression and frustration. (Actually they can sort of fix that, but that's another argument.) And it can't change the absolute onslaught of divisive, mean-spirited, life-dishonoring discourse with which we talk to each other every day online and in the media.
If parents are not up to the task of dealing with those things, then this isn't going to change no matter what laws we pass. If guns go away, pipe bombs will take their place. There are just too many ways to kill people and it's too easy to learn how to do it. And unless we want to go totalitarian state, we have way too much freedom to keep people from doing horrible things to each other.