Stay at home wives with no kids

Horn in Hong Kong is exempt from this conversation. (for good reasons)

Bottom line is you have to contribute to the relationship and both sides have to agree to what you contribute. if you want to have a hot wife and a clean house then if she doesn't want to work she better be hot and clean the house. but if she doesn't want to work, doesn't want to work out or clean the house then she is lazy as ****.

to prove i'm not sexist, if you want replace she with he MFers.
 
I have a friend who's wife stays at home and they don't have any kids. It's great since she runs all errands during the week, takes care of stuff around the house, makes good healthy dinners, and so they have evenings and weekends to spend quality time together. In all honesty, I don't know how people stay sane when both husband and wife work - it's just too hectic for me.
 
There is no good answer to this question. I would have to say unless you need your wife to work for monetary reasons life will be easier for both of you if she doesn't.

Running a successful household, kids or not, is a full time job. I don't it is a reasonable goal to have both people in a marriage chasing careers without having your household be chaotic more than it is not.

I expect my house to be clean all of the time, all of the laundry to be done all of the time, everything to be in order all the time. I don't want to hear about it. I know it takes effort but I also know it is not difficult or even a challenge to keep things in order.

That said I don't think it is possible for anyone to have any sort of responsible position, manage a household, your personal life and maintain a successful relationship. It is not realistic to think that one person could wear so many hats and be successful for any length of time with any chance of happiness.
 
i work from home and my wife is a teacher. 1 yr anniversary is next monday. she's been home all summer. i love working from home, but wouldn't be able to do it if she was a stay at home wife.
 
My sister tried something like this once. They had one kid and she was a stay at homer. She was under the impression he was supposed to help with some stuff around the house.

While that may be fine, her version of "help" meant she did nothing all day then when he got home at 5, they were supposed to split the chores 50/50.

I tried to stay out of this but my mom said "********. His job is to go to work and make money. Your job is to take care of the kids and clean the house. You made that deal. You should live with it. If you both worked, it would be 50/50."

For what it's worth, my dad retired and was a stay at homer for about 5 years while my mom brought home the bacon. She felt the same way about him staying at home.
 
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Either the spouse has a Melvin Udall level of OCD or they are so inefficient, they're better off avoiding the workplace.
 
Negative, negative. Pre-washed, pre-cut, pre-marinated everything, online grocery purchasing, take out, delivery, dishwashers, self cleaning ovens, low maintenance surfaces, no scrub cleaners, sustainable flooring, teflon rugs, time saving labor saving devices galore, and whatever she doesn't want to do she can sub contract out to a nice Romanian girl. You can even, if so inclined, hire a chef to come in and make your meals for the wk on the relative cheap (grocery costs not included). My wife spends maybe 3 hrs out of 168 per wk on upkeep and its usually unnecessary odd female OCD related tinkering. The toiling housewife homemaker gender role is very much obsolete. Home with kids, full time job. Home alone, indulgence.
 
the tradeoff is better keep that body in shape, and unspeakable sex acts on demand...
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whatever happened to women's lib, female empowerment, marriage is a partnership? that's my problem with this...the attitude of "give me this so i can take that".
 
I am one of those women. My husband was laid off shortly after we got married and we lived, just barely, on my administrative assistants salary the first year of our marriage. When my husband finally found a job in his field, it was in IL. I didn't really have time to find a job up there before we moved. We had been there less than two weeks, just enough time for me to get the boxes unpacked, when I was diagnosed with pneumonia. For about 6 weeks, I literally didn't have the energy to look for a job. I eventually found a part time job in a craft store, to cover play money, but by then we knew we could make it without my working full time. When my husband found a job back in Texas, I asked if he wanted me to go back to work. He said, only if you want to. I decided I didn't want to.

I confess I'm not a terribly good house keeper, but I am usually the one who does what cleaning gets done. I do the laundry, the shopping, pay the bills, run general errands and take care of the animals. I also do most of the cooking, unless of course things are going on the grill. I think my husbands favorite thing about my being home is not having to go to the grocery store. He really dislikes grocery shopping.

I don't usually get bored because I do a lot of volunteering at our church. I belong to groups that quilt for sick children, knit shawls for women in distress and provide hygiene kits that get distributed to the homeless. I also sing in the church choir. I also belong to a women's social group at the church and a group that gets together twice a month to teach each other new crafts. I confess I sometimes stay in my PJs most of the day and watch old movies. I've also been known to spend a good portion of a day with a good book. Still, it's not soap operas and bon-bons, as some of you seem to think.
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I guees I just don't get voluntarily subjecting oneself to complete and total dependence. I WANT to be a contributor and, in turn, a decision maker. I don't want to have to rely on someone else to permit me to make a decision and if I am bringing nothing to the table by choice, then I can't expect to have that ability.
 
Stina, your post is right out of the 1800's and it has nothing to do with you not working. It has more to do with pneumonia and quilting.
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Most of the houses I've seen on "Cribs" are pseudo-Tuscan cookie-cutter crap decorated by "designers" who couldn't work for Star Furniture. If that's your thing, great, but they don't do much for me.
 
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