Should I tell?

Since I have been married and become friends with other couples, there has been ALOT of flirting and stuff like that. Its weird. Its like they know they won't cheat but they feel comfortable enough to say innapropriate things....which i have said too.
 
Don't ever text a married woman who you are not *******. Pretty simple rule, really. Especially not one married to a friend. Too much potential for misunderstanding.
 
my best friend from high school who is married now kinda did that to me too. she was in town so i invited her over just to catch up. we got to talking about our past and what might have been and that if she wasn't with him she'd want to be with me.

it was weird. nothing happened. it was all talk. but weird. i had crushed for her so hard back in the day.
 
Wow! I didn't expect this thing to get this many replies, or get as twisted as it did. FTR, I didn't text her, she texted me. In fact, I ignored her first text. Secondly, like I stated before, she NEVER said anything really over the line other than asking me to come over, nor did I. In the past she has often invited me to join them when they are out, or just hanging around the house and are board. To me, it’s not that big of a deal, except he wasn’t with her this time, and I didn’t know it.

I have flirted with her MANY times right in front of my best friend and she with me and he has never worried about it, because he trusts both of us. For my part he has nothing to worry about and I doubt that she would do anything like that to him either. My concern really was, is the issue big enough to bring to his attention or is it something best left unmentioned because NOTHING happened other that a few text messages. She and I are good friends too. In fact I am friends with her entire family, parents and sibling both, so normally, I don’t think that it is all that out of line to have a conversation with her.

Oh and BTW, just because I am currently single does not mean that I have always been. I know that at times when you are in a committed relationship, you still will flirt with people just for the fun of it. To me there is a difference between flirting and hitting on someone. I wasn’t looking to brag about anything like ramathorn suggested, but rather to get a different perspective. Thanks for the input, everyone. I knew I would get some very interesting replies, just not so many.
 
Some of you are a little to rigid here. There are many people who have a flirty personality-the classic southern woman is like that-think of a diner waitress, "more coffee, hon?"
There are fine lines here, and places you shouldn't go, but everyone is not going to be like an emotionless, rigid drone all the time. Flirting is a social skill, and can be charming and harmless. It is part of some people's normal repartee, and some people like to practice it once in a while so they don't forget how to flirt. It is sort of a parlor game with some people.
Don't look at me, I'm terrible at it.
 
Sounds like you might be playing with fire. If anything like that happens again, you might want to explain to her that you're uncomfortable with the interaction and that you'd not like to engage in such behavior.

And telling him will not help anything.
 
The toughest thing to read about this situation is her motivations. Was she really just bored, and looking for some (sorta) innocent fun with a few flirty text messages? Or is she looking to score a little action on the side while your buddy is out of the house?

Either way, best to let her be. If you keep it going, you may start something you don't want to finish.

I am a bit torn as to whether you tell your buddy, though. To me, I guess it would depend on how far it went. If it was just a silly game that went a little too far, then you probably don't want to rock the boat. Although I personally would find this sort of behavior very odd -- but probably only because I couldn't see any of my female friends doing this sort of thing. I know, to each his/her own.

However, if she started making indecent proposals, then your buddy might appreciate hearing it from you first. Whenever she drops the bombshell that she has been sleeping around, he will probably get pissed at you for not cluing him in sooner if it came to light that you had previously seen warning signs. Besides, if she is sleeping around, then they are likely headed for divorce anyway, and your buddy may appreciate the advance knowledge so he can get a PI to gather evidence against her for the proceedings if necessary.

Good luck. Sounds like you've got a bit of a minefield to navigate.
 

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