Good story Hayden. So contrary to mine. My wife woke up at 530am with pain. At 7 she woke me. At 8 we left for the hospital after the on call told her to take a hot bath. At 830 we were at the hospital. THe nurse being completely patronizing asked my wife if this was her first. Yes. "Sweetie you need to try to relax and deal with the pain this could take hours." Then they check her 10cm fully effaced. DR!!!! 9am done.
Being a father
- Thread starter zork
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Knoxville-Horn
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Since this thread is starting to get sentimental, I'll add mine.
Long story short, I had to fight in court for 3 years before I could finally be "allowed" to be a father. Without getting into any details, I did absolutely nothing wrong. The mom had met someone else, kid might not be mine, she tried to make my life hell so I'd sign over my parental rights and move back to Texas.
Anyway, all is good now. She's (the mom) has grown up now and we all get along.
On to the story. When Caylin was about 3, I came to the realization that she was now about old enough to actually participate in Father's Day. I had seen her on Mother's Day and saw the stuff that they'd made in Daycare for all the Mothers. I remember thinking that I couldn't wait to see what I was going to get on Father's Day.
Father's Day comes and I go to pick her up. I get nothing. Apparently, after talking to her grandmother later on, I was told that, due to the lack of fathers present with that group of kids, they decided to not to do anything for Father's Day as some of the kids wouldn't understand. It sucks, on multiple levels, but I do understand.
So, we're driving somewhere to eat and she's in the back seat. I'm pissed - not at her, but at the situation. All the sudden, from the back seat, I hear the faintest of voices say, "Happy Father's Day daddy. I love you."
It's making my eyes water as I type it. Also, I'm listening to the Three Tenors sing Nessum Dorma.
It was better than any craft that the teachers could have come up with....
Long story short, I had to fight in court for 3 years before I could finally be "allowed" to be a father. Without getting into any details, I did absolutely nothing wrong. The mom had met someone else, kid might not be mine, she tried to make my life hell so I'd sign over my parental rights and move back to Texas.
Anyway, all is good now. She's (the mom) has grown up now and we all get along.
On to the story. When Caylin was about 3, I came to the realization that she was now about old enough to actually participate in Father's Day. I had seen her on Mother's Day and saw the stuff that they'd made in Daycare for all the Mothers. I remember thinking that I couldn't wait to see what I was going to get on Father's Day.
Father's Day comes and I go to pick her up. I get nothing. Apparently, after talking to her grandmother later on, I was told that, due to the lack of fathers present with that group of kids, they decided to not to do anything for Father's Day as some of the kids wouldn't understand. It sucks, on multiple levels, but I do understand.
So, we're driving somewhere to eat and she's in the back seat. I'm pissed - not at her, but at the situation. All the sudden, from the back seat, I hear the faintest of voices say, "Happy Father's Day daddy. I love you."
It's making my eyes water as I type it. Also, I'm listening to the Three Tenors sing Nessum Dorma.
It was better than any craft that the teachers could have come up with....
Huckleberry
1,000+ Posts
Congratulations, zork.
One thing that hasn't been mentioned is their first belly laugh. You'll never forget it and you will never be able to watch your child belly laugh and not smile or even laugh yourself. Not that you'd want to, but it's simply not possible.
Like this but 1,000 times more powerful when it's yours
One thing that hasn't been mentioned is their first belly laugh. You'll never forget it and you will never be able to watch your child belly laugh and not smile or even laugh yourself. Not that you'd want to, but it's simply not possible.
Like this but 1,000 times more powerful when it's yours
hullabelew
1,000+ Posts
Something about seeing (and hearing) a kid laugh. My daughter is the little blonde kid on the left. This was after the boy scored a goal and the bigger girl rubbed his head.
DCLonghorn8
250+ Posts
We have 5 kids that are 6 or under. There is nothing better in life than kids. It's as if everything before kids was just practice for real life.
As for the miracle of life, I was only at the birth of our first child. My wife prefers I be at home with the other kids than with her. She says it makes her less stressed to not have the kids with a sitter. I don’t mind not being there so much. I’m happy to be there, but happy to be home with the kids too.
For our first, she started contractions during the Big 12 championship game in 2001. I don’t remember it this way, but my wife tells me that I had a pen and pad next to me for just this eventuality and that she told me that she thought her contractions had begun. She says that I didn’t even take my eyes off the TV and wrote down the time and asked her to tell me when it happened again.
She said she was truly worried that if they became too close during the game, that’d I would have stayed home. She also says that I was trying to convince her they weren’t close enough yet during the game. We left right after the game ended. We arrived at the hospital way too early, which is standard for first time births. The baby was born the next morning.
I dispute this account, but it sounds highly possible.
As for the miracle of life, I was only at the birth of our first child. My wife prefers I be at home with the other kids than with her. She says it makes her less stressed to not have the kids with a sitter. I don’t mind not being there so much. I’m happy to be there, but happy to be home with the kids too.
For our first, she started contractions during the Big 12 championship game in 2001. I don’t remember it this way, but my wife tells me that I had a pen and pad next to me for just this eventuality and that she told me that she thought her contractions had begun. She says that I didn’t even take my eyes off the TV and wrote down the time and asked her to tell me when it happened again.
She said she was truly worried that if they became too close during the game, that’d I would have stayed home. She also says that I was trying to convince her they weren’t close enough yet during the game. We left right after the game ended. We arrived at the hospital way too early, which is standard for first time births. The baby was born the next morning.
I dispute this account, but it sounds highly possible.
Son of a Son
1,000+ Posts
I'll tell you, you'll know how much your heart is in it when you're about to go to bed, sick with strep, so you wake up the wife and make HER go kiss your sleeping daughter for you, just so you won't miss a night of doing it. Then you'll stand a safe distance away and say whatever it is you say after you've given her the kiss.
I'd gladly trade my Man card for my Daddy card ANY day.
I'd gladly trade my Man card for my Daddy card ANY day.
Statalyzer
10,000+ Posts
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YoLaDu
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My advice: sleep, sleep, sleep, every chance you get.
Fatherhood is amazing, but it wears you out. We had twins, and it made it very difficult to get those much needed breaks.
I have a newfound respect for single parents; that is for sure. Teamwork and having a great partner makes a world of difference.
Fatherhood is amazing, but it wears you out. We had twins, and it made it very difficult to get those much needed breaks.
I have a newfound respect for single parents; that is for sure. Teamwork and having a great partner makes a world of difference.
Bob in Houston
2,500+ Posts
Having skipped most of the thread, I will barge in here.
I have a ton of stories, many already related here at various times. But as to now?
Your life, as you knew it, is over.
That's bad in some ways, but much better in others. I could have been a Jeopardy champion before my daughter was born. My connection with pop culture began to fray pretty much that day. I don't miss it.
What you used to think of as 'personal' time will trend toward zero. Again, bad in some ways, good in others. Obviously many people here were divorced after they had kids. I have great sympathy. My wife and I, in most respects, grew closer.
Personally, I began to live less like a kid and more like an adult. I took more things seriously (but not all things).
Parenthood is a difficult job, but it can be extremely rewarding. Our second (and final) child, our son, is going off to college next fall. It really wasn't that long ago that our daughter was born. The further away that day becomes, the less time it all seemed to take.
I have a ton of stories, many already related here at various times. But as to now?
Your life, as you knew it, is over.
That's bad in some ways, but much better in others. I could have been a Jeopardy champion before my daughter was born. My connection with pop culture began to fray pretty much that day. I don't miss it.
What you used to think of as 'personal' time will trend toward zero. Again, bad in some ways, good in others. Obviously many people here were divorced after they had kids. I have great sympathy. My wife and I, in most respects, grew closer.
Personally, I began to live less like a kid and more like an adult. I took more things seriously (but not all things).
Parenthood is a difficult job, but it can be extremely rewarding. Our second (and final) child, our son, is going off to college next fall. It really wasn't that long ago that our daughter was born. The further away that day becomes, the less time it all seemed to take.
OrangeBlooded
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Bob in Houston
2,500+ Posts
My son is 8 days old and I would do anything to ensure he feels loved, safe, and happy. Since he's been born I've taken about 150 pictures. It doesn't matter that in about 75% of them he's asleep. What really gets me is when his eyes open when I'm holding him and he just stares at me.
The Muzzler
100+ Posts
I now have twin 2.5 year old daughters. I was one of those guys who was perfectly content without kids, but now I don't even remember my life before they came to see me. My girls drive me crazy most of the time, but when they look at me and smile, I am a a gonner! I can have the most stressful day at work, and when I arrive home, they run as fast (while screaming) as they can to greet me. I never realized I could love ANYTHING that much.
One big fear you will have is "am I doing the right thing?"......my advice...put down the books and politely reject all the expert advice from others. You already know what to do.....you just have not realized it yet.
One big fear you will have is "am I doing the right thing?"......my advice...put down the books and politely reject all the expert advice from others. You already know what to do.....you just have not realized it yet.
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nycLonghorn
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Congrats! Have our first coming in about 2 weeks.
Basil Your Face
100+ Posts
Congratulations!!! We are expecting our first in three months and I can't wait to meet him.
babysdaddy
100+ Posts
that picture is awesome, congratulations
snotrocket
100+ Posts
Congrats zork.
I don't intend on this being a downer. The wife and I have been officially trying now for about 6 years. To be completely honest I've lost track. But it seems like a lifetime now. We've had 4 miscarriages in that span and to date no kids between us two. We've seen more doctors than I remember. Some of those doctors did not take our insurance. Some were in Dallas. Some were in Houston. Most were in Austin. All of them had a laundry list of tests they wanted done. We've tried every diet. Bought a treadmill. Tried acupuncture, injections, and an allergist. This is just a couple of the things we have done. Some of these really opened my eyes as to the severity of our problem. Every doctor says something close to the following. "It's not an exact science so we try and limit the outcomes to better ensure a healthy full term pregnancy." So if nothing happens that month, they're basically off the hook. If it does and it terminates itself early, then it's just dumb luck. So to be so blunt. After 4 no no's you don't get to emotional. This has strained the marriage a time or two. I just can't believe my wife continues to push on with it. You see, she has 2 kids from a previous marriage. I love them to death and they love me back. But they still have their real dad in their lives. They're great kids. I have never ever even once heard "I don't have to listen to you, you're not my father." I only get a yes sir. Like I said they are great kids. That was one of the characteristics in my wife that made her my wife. That she's a great mother. Well now most every couple we know has kids or has one on the way. Even couples that got married years after us. It made me realize an inner strength that I never knew existed. To congratulate someone else like zork here and show no jealousy, hatred, or evilness. At least I got that out of the experience. It has made me a better person and closer to God. You find him through the rough parts or is it he finds you? I dunno. Well I think it's about time for a new paragraph and to apologize for the length.
Well as luck would have it we got pregnant again. We found out last week. Tomorrow we go see our new obgyn. I can't sleep. Mrs. snot is in the bedroom right now not sleeping either. We've learned not to get to elated by it all and we've learned to put on fake confident smiles. I'm not looking forward to the doctor telling me our scores are this and they need to be this. That we should not get our hopes up and to put it in God's hands. I guess after 4 times already it has taken a toll on me. I can't imagine what it's done to my wife. I keep thinking maybe this is the time. Maybe we'll hear good news for once. It could happen. I'd love to show some pictures in 8 and a half months. Again sorry for all the negativity. I just wanted you to know how special your little miracles are. I'm sure you already knew by this thread. I just thought a different perspective could help. Wish us luck.
Snotty
I don't intend on this being a downer. The wife and I have been officially trying now for about 6 years. To be completely honest I've lost track. But it seems like a lifetime now. We've had 4 miscarriages in that span and to date no kids between us two. We've seen more doctors than I remember. Some of those doctors did not take our insurance. Some were in Dallas. Some were in Houston. Most were in Austin. All of them had a laundry list of tests they wanted done. We've tried every diet. Bought a treadmill. Tried acupuncture, injections, and an allergist. This is just a couple of the things we have done. Some of these really opened my eyes as to the severity of our problem. Every doctor says something close to the following. "It's not an exact science so we try and limit the outcomes to better ensure a healthy full term pregnancy." So if nothing happens that month, they're basically off the hook. If it does and it terminates itself early, then it's just dumb luck. So to be so blunt. After 4 no no's you don't get to emotional. This has strained the marriage a time or two. I just can't believe my wife continues to push on with it. You see, she has 2 kids from a previous marriage. I love them to death and they love me back. But they still have their real dad in their lives. They're great kids. I have never ever even once heard "I don't have to listen to you, you're not my father." I only get a yes sir. Like I said they are great kids. That was one of the characteristics in my wife that made her my wife. That she's a great mother. Well now most every couple we know has kids or has one on the way. Even couples that got married years after us. It made me realize an inner strength that I never knew existed. To congratulate someone else like zork here and show no jealousy, hatred, or evilness. At least I got that out of the experience. It has made me a better person and closer to God. You find him through the rough parts or is it he finds you? I dunno. Well I think it's about time for a new paragraph and to apologize for the length.
Well as luck would have it we got pregnant again. We found out last week. Tomorrow we go see our new obgyn. I can't sleep. Mrs. snot is in the bedroom right now not sleeping either. We've learned not to get to elated by it all and we've learned to put on fake confident smiles. I'm not looking forward to the doctor telling me our scores are this and they need to be this. That we should not get our hopes up and to put it in God's hands. I guess after 4 times already it has taken a toll on me. I can't imagine what it's done to my wife. I keep thinking maybe this is the time. Maybe we'll hear good news for once. It could happen. I'd love to show some pictures in 8 and a half months. Again sorry for all the negativity. I just wanted you to know how special your little miracles are. I'm sure you already knew by this thread. I just thought a different perspective could help. Wish us luck.
Snotty
Congrats, Zork!
Being a parent is the best thing that has ever happened to me. My wife and I have a 6 year old son, a 3 year old, and our daughter turns 1 in a few weeks. The Mrs and I are separated, with a divorce coming soon, so I don't get to see my oldest every day. I stop by and see the younger ones, but my oldest is in school when I stop by and is usually in bed by the time I get done with work. That kills me. I do call him every day that I don't actually spend time with him. We split time with the kids, so I do get 3-4 days a week with them. I can't imagine my life without them.
Being a parent is the best thing that has ever happened to me. My wife and I have a 6 year old son, a 3 year old, and our daughter turns 1 in a few weeks. The Mrs and I are separated, with a divorce coming soon, so I don't get to see my oldest every day. I stop by and see the younger ones, but my oldest is in school when I stop by and is usually in bed by the time I get done with work. That kills me. I do call him every day that I don't actually spend time with him. We split time with the kids, so I do get 3-4 days a week with them. I can't imagine my life without them.
Statalyzer
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The Rookie
100+ Posts
My wife is currently 21 weeks for our first. It is a girl. I was kind of shocked when we were told it was a girl, but i cannot wait until she is born.
Snotty- We have some friends that are in a similar spot that you are in. They would make great parents but cannot get pregnant. I pray for them all the time and will do the same for you and your wife. Good Luck.
Snotty- We have some friends that are in a similar spot that you are in. They would make great parents but cannot get pregnant. I pray for them all the time and will do the same for you and your wife. Good Luck.
Mrs.Macanudo
25+ Posts
My latest comment on parenthood.....last night, I told Mac to quiet down as I turned up the volume of the Thomas the Train episode I hadn't seen before.....
...that's just wrong.
...that's just wrong.
snotrocket
100+ Posts
stat and rook thanks.
All went well today. Blood work taken and sonogram coming soon.
I danced tonight with my 10 year old stepdaughter. She has not figured it out that I'm the worlds worst dancer and hopefully she never does.
I already pray that nobody goes through what we are going through. It's a type of suffering that you never get rid of.
again thanks
All went well today. Blood work taken and sonogram coming soon.
I danced tonight with my 10 year old stepdaughter. She has not figured it out that I'm the worlds worst dancer and hopefully she never does.
I already pray that nobody goes through what we are going through. It's a type of suffering that you never get rid of.
again thanks
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