so my friend died today...

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LAktownhorn

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i can't believe this has happened. i knew my friend since we were 5 yrs old. he lived 3 houses down from me until we both graduated high school. we stayed friends though college and were roommates, but it was there that we sort of grew apart. but we always kept in touch and i knew he would always be one of my best friends.

recently he had been going through rough times. he always had tons of money problems. his live in girlfriend and mother of his child went crazy and had to go to rehab. he was super stressed, but finally to the joy of all his friends and family he decided to leave her b/c she had always been such a horrible influence.

seemed like he turned a corner and was actually a bit happy. then about a week and a half ago he got a cold. it got worse and worse and worse. about 7 hours ago his heart stopped. and he died shortly after. at this moment no one knows what he actually died of. he was only 30 yrs old.

i have never had a friend die. i can't believe this ****. he was the nicest guy you'd ever meet and would do anything to make his friends happy. he was sooooo popular in high school and in life that i can't imagine the scale of his funeral. the entire suburb where we grew up will probably be there.

sometimes i felt superior to him b/c i felt like my life was going so great and his wasn't all he dreamed for. i felt like i was so much smarter and he just made dumb decisions. i felt like i made so much more money than him and that almost made me a better person. but i realize he wasn't poor at all. he has more friends than i will ever have and was probably kinder to them than i could be to my friends. he died as the richest person i know.
 
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I'm so sorry for your loss--you, your friend, and his family are in my prayers. Let his kindness to people continue through you. It will be a way of keeping his spriit alive.
 
Please listen to mihm rules mom. She has put it very well -- that your friend's goodness can live on through you.

I will keep you and your friend's family in my prayers.
 
wow, there really aren't many posts on prayer req's.

so its been a little over a year since my friend died. its strange but it almost still hasn't completely settled in. like i predicted in my first post. his funeral was incredible. i think 700 people were there. it made me wonder if i would even have 1/4 of that many people come to mine.

so my friend died of herpes. yep, herpes. the kind you get when you have a cold sore. the dr.s said its very rare and 1 in 8 million people die from it. he had some ****** luck...

his live in gf/ mother of his child went insane. said she was going to ruin his funeral and said that my friend beat her all the time. such total bs, but this behavior immediately after he had died made me want to choke the *****. she lost custody of both her children and no one has heard from her in a long time... thank god.

its strange. i still think about him maybe every hour or so. i get visions of him lying in his casket. just so unbelievable.

his kid is just now starting to realize that his dad is gone. he was 5 when he passed and just never grasped what was happening. he's a good kid, getting taken care of by his grand parents.
 
That's so sad and tragic. A really good friend of mine died three years ago. We had a similar story but in my case, I moved to TX and he had a great life in NC. We talked a few times on the phone and wrote but our lives were so busy. We always said when I got back, we would get the families together and have good times with the kids. I looked forward to it. I didn't make it back in time...

He was an EMT...woke up one morning to get ready for work and recognized the signs of a heart attack. His wife called 911 but it was too late by the time they made it to his home. He was only 32 years old. His little girl was 7 years old and he was a coach on her little baseball team...there was supposed to be a game that night after he got off work.

Just typing all this out makes it so fresh.


Death is not easy and neither is missing a friend.

{{{HUGS}}}
 
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