Prayers for Friend

[horniegrl14]

I just got off the phone with my oldest friend. It was one of the hardest conversations I've ever had in my life. I found out last night that her father was tragically killed on Saturday night.

She has been keeping it all together until she talked to me. This was the first time I in my life I did not know what to say and I feel so bad.

The funeral is thursday morning and I'm scared out of my mind to go. I've never been to a funeral before and this will be the first time in a few years I've seen some of my closest friends I grew up with.

I'm coming here to vent and to ask for all the prayers my friend and her family can get. I do not know what to do or say. Growing up her family was like my second family and tonight it pretty much all sunk in for me after speaking with her.

Please pray for her family. Pray for my dad, who was good friends with him and its taking it hard, and pray for me and her friends to have the strength on Thursday to help her get through this. But most importantly pray for her.

Thank you so very much...

 

[Bevoette]

I am so sorry to read this. You don't have to worry about what to say, just support and listen and be there for your friend and that will mean more then you'll know and I am sure she knows it's hard for you as well . lean on each other.

Prayers for everyone.

 

[Texanne]

Bevoette is right about not worrying about what to say. A simple "I;m so sorry" conveys everything you need. Your physical presence will mean much, much more than words.

Later on, your friend will probably need -- and want -- to talk about her dad. LET HER. I discovered, after I lost my parents, that many of my friends kind of wanted to pretend that mama and daddy never existed. I'd start to say something about my folks and I could see it on my friends' faces: Here she goes, talking about dead people again. What you, as a friend, need to recognize is that her dad is still very real to her, even though he is no longer of this world. Talking about him can help her get through her grief. Especually since you knew her dad and were close to him as well.

The same goes for helping your own dad get through his grief. All of you have lost something very important to you.

Main thing: just be there for your friend and your dad.

 

[horniegrl14]

thank you both so much for the help. Right now I'm just sitting here starring at the screen. My mom just got off the phone with my friend's mom. My friend's parents got a divorce a couple years back. But right now I'm just so mad...so mad.

Apprently the my friend's parent's families are fighting between the two familes. They are blaming different people for this accident, but mostly blaming the ex wife, who my mom is very close to and was just talking to.
And she is so upset because this was a freak accident(hit and run).

I'm just so mad. Why would they do this now? why fight? why make it so much harder on my friend already? She lost her dad who she was so close to and now she has to put up with fighting? WHY?

It is going to be so hard tomorrow for everyone, but I just am so scared that the families will fight tomorrow and make is so hard on my friend.

The father went out to a bar that night drinking, and from then on the story gets fuzzy. He was hit I guess while trying to walk home from the bar or something. I just keep thinking....that could have easily been my dad. Same bar he goes to, everything. And that scares me to death. I dont know what I would do if I lost my dad.

I'm just venting...I have nowhere else to turn and I'm just hurting this morning....what a morning. I come here to get advice....advice from people that know what the situation is like, advice that will help me, help her through this.

I'm so lucky that I have a place like this to come to, a place where I know people will pray for strangers because they are that type of people.

I may not be very close with her now, but we've known each other since we were 8 and our families were so close. Please still pray for my friend, but please pray that everyone realizes what tomorrow is about and to not cause anymore pain.

thank you...

 

[Hpslugga]

prayers

 

[horniegrl14]

thank you all for the prayers, the family really appreciates it along with my friend. I just got back from the funeral. I have never been so upset in my life and I just don't know what to do right now. It is all starting to sink in for me and my parents....and I'm dreading the rest of the day, week...just everything.

please if you love someone, tell them. call them up and tell them now. I wish I had told my best friend that more and right now I realize how important love is to people. All I want right now is my best friend to realize how much I love him and for my oldest friend to know that she will always be in my thoughts.

please pray for my friend. the only time she really broke down was with my dad. I just can't take this right....so please pray...

thank you

 

[mihm_rules_mom]

Many prayers for all of you.

 

[horniegrl14]

I just wanted to thank you all for your thoughts and prayers. I just talked to my friend and although she is sad, she has strong faith in God and that has helped her through this.

I told her its okay to cry because I know she is afraid to really cry. I just hope she will continue to have faith. Her older brother is taking it really hard so pray for him to get through each day.

I really do appreciate it so much. I know she appreciates all the thoughts and prayers too.

Her father was a really good man, like my second dad growing up but atleast he is with God now.