My Grandpa has cancer.

[Mike_Tyson]

Prostate cancer to be exact. I lost my Paw-Paw a year ago last November to lung cancer...now this. Man, this stuff sucks. Pray for him and my family, please. I've lost someone close to me (family or friend) on average ever year since I was 16 (now 24). I had 2 friends die or get murdered within 2 1-year spans. When does this stop? No pun intended but it's hard always trying to look on the bright side of life.

 

[ACE]

Prayers for you, your grandpa and your entire family. Cancer does indeed suck a whole lot of hind tit. Be there for him and let him know how much you love him.

 

[Mike_Tyson]

But that's the thing, ACE. Our relationship is kind of strained. He was, shall we say, brought up in a different time where there was racial tier. I never got congratulated on any of my accomplishments by him (and I was a city recognized basketball player before injury) while other cousins and my sister got props from him. He left during my college graduation. I kind of begrudge him over these kinds of things. I always planned on telling him how disappointed I felt with him treating me in a callous manner in regards to how he treated his other grandkids but it just ain't the time. I need to be able to rise above my own feelings and be there for my dad. I'm mature enough to do it and I know it is the right thing to do but still...all those feelings sit right there in the pit of my stomach.

 

[Bacone Cap]

Prayers, Mike. Cancer is not a cakewalk by any means. The last thing your grandpa needs is to be reminded of is how he poorly he might have treated you. The best thing would be to make him as comfortable as possible and do everything you can for him. WHEN he survives and beats the hell outta this cancer and you two are sitting out on his back patio with a cold beer in your hands would be a better time to have this talk with him.

Have positive thoughts around him no matter how hard it may be. Again, prayers.

 

[ACE]

Without knowing exactly what the racial divide between you exactly is, tough to say how to approach this. Is it something you can get by for now, and address later, as Bacone suggests?

Or perhaps use this moment to seek re-conciliation, if that is what your heart really desires. Cancer is a tremendous jolt to one's psyche and essentially forces self-evaluation, introspection and retrospection.

 

[Mike_Tyson]

Good news, apparently my Grandpa's cancer is opperable. He's going to go under the knife and they're going to get the tumor. Hope it works. I don't want my dad to lose his dad. So thanks to those who prayed or thought about praying or didn't think on this thread. Peace.

 

[MikeUT00]

Hope everything turned out okay.