losing somebody special to unnatural cause

[Anonymous]

my best friend has lost her only parent to foul play. What can I do?

We have dated on and off for 5+ years. I need to be there for her but I don't know what to do or say or how to help. What can I do?

She is my best friend and I feel lost but I know in my heart what I fathom is simpleton to what she is feeling.

Please pray for her family.

 

[Bevoette]

Tell her you are there for her and "be" there and support her and cry with her, prayer with her, hold her etc.
That's about all you can do and is what many need in that situation.
Prayers for her.

"She is my best friend and I feel lost but I know in my heart what I fathom is simpleton to what she is feeling."

Tell her that and you can also say "I know I can't even begin to know how you feel but I am sorry for you loss and if there is anything I can do for you please let me know.

 

[mihm_rules_mom]

You are right--you cannot know her pain. But just being with her will be a comfort to her. Bevoette was right on with her suggestions. Also, there might be a support group in your area for victims of foul play, and they might have some specific literature/advice to help you help her. Here where I live there is Homecide Survivors.

I will pray for her, her family, and you.

 

[Anonymous]

Thank you. This is very difficult. It really is a mess of pain, anger, and shock, amongst other things. Thank you again.

 

[SewaneeHorn]

I lost a girlfriend to a car accident back in 1999. And what I needed most sometimes was someone to just listen, or even to just to sit with me. That's what I needed. And that's what I think lots of folks mean by just "being there". It really helps.

And if you see that she needs something, don't ask her if she would like it, just do it (if you know it won't offend her). If she needs a meal, take her something she likes to eat. Do the laundry or the dishes. Sometimes those little things help alot.