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Hornin Hong Kong

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Yes, got engaged 2 weeks ago. Now I know there is NO SEX AT ALL but this is a time when that which must not be named should be opened for a few days.

However, every athlete needs to hang them up some day and I definitely went out on top. From UT to the Navy in San Diego with exotic ports of call back to UT for grad school then off to NYC for my Patirck Bateman phase to London for my international phase to finally Asia where I went hog wild for awhile I got away with it.

Hong Kong is a slippery slope. I could have gone two ways - luckily I found the right girl at the right time and didn't end up dead in an alley behind a macau cathouse.

Now the new mother in law is going berzerk though the wedding is not until 25 April next year and I think she may have a heart attack before it's all said and done.

Got fiance, house, new family, SUV, ring all in about a 5 week period. getting dog. I'd just as soon get her pregnant tomorrow but she doesnt want to be big in the wedding dress.

Any of you considering - I'm 39 - do it my way - don't get married at 23. Do it on the back end. If I think about what I'd have missed from 23-39... don't miss that.

Thanks to Crayon or obvious reasons.
 
If you get her pregnant tomorrow, that should give her a couple of months to work of the fat after the birth. So what's her problem?
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I'm getting "older". I definitely didn't do the early marriage thing. Nor have I sewn nearly the seeds that you have.

My only regret would be not being as young when my kids (if I ever have any) are at various stages of their lives. And the same goes for grandkids.

My (paternal) grandfather was old when my father was born and my father was old when I was born. IF I have a kid, there won't be much (if any) overlap of my dad being a functioning human being and my kids(s) being a cognitive human being. And then there is the whole "piggy-back ride", "pick me up", strength/back thing.

Other than that, congratulations.

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congrats.

did you meet her in hong kong? is she a longhorn fan? does she even know what american football is?
 
I have three key pieces of practical advice for you, read on

1) Stay out of the wedding planning as much as possible- be aware and agreeable. Your function here is like the Senate, advise and consent. The key is consent. Yes, you could block something. No, it's not worth it.
2) Keep your mother out of the wedding planning process. Let your fiancee and her mother handle it. If your mother insists on becoming involved, you're going to have to send her on a snipe hunt.
3) Do not have a brunch the day after the wedding. Get to the ******* airport and jet to the honeymoon, unless it's a distination wedding, in which case either you need to switch islands or they do. Either way, somebody needs to vapor.
 
Am I the only one who takes a degree of evil pleasure in this? I mean, HHK is successful, loaded & been regaling us w/ stories of his partying w/ wannabe coke whores from NYC to London to Asia. It's about time he settle down & share in the day to day monotonous, soul draining, life sucking misery that is marriage. Kinda evens the playing field a bit for the rest of us non-rock stars
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In the last year I've (37) added new house, wife, step son (8) and baby girl (4 mos). The transition was bumpy but I wouldn't change a thing. Looking back, my life seems so empty before. I know some of you young guys don't understand but I hope you get to the point in your lives when you do.
 
@crash - yes shes a HK Chinese girl who grew up in Canada, school in Chicago, Grad school in London

@CBD - house in HK

@BC - yes I have no interest in planning other than some ground rules - i.e. has to be a minister somewhere, there will be a western menu as well as chinese, there will be a band at the wedding that plays 80s tunes
- My mom doesnt care and is a continent away so no worries
-There will be no brunch
- there will be some highly amusing chinese novelties at the wedding featuring me in the traditional outfit serving tea to relatives.

@ghost of tom joad - my coke whores were real dirty coke whores not wannabee coke whores.
 
Awesome Hornin! We kinda did it your way too. Got married kinda late although I had the same girlfriend/fiance for a very long time. We did pretty much everything on the to do list before having children. We just had one 10 weeks ago. I highly recommend it, but I would say you and the wife enjoy each other for a good bit before the kid comes. However, at 39 you probably do not want to wait much longer. I am almost 37, and I am glad we waited as long as we did for kids. the downside is trying to have enough energy to keep up at this point. Congrats again!
 
Holy ****. This is incredibly optimistic of you, Hornin...
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I have certainly enjoyed your stories over the years.

Congratulations, and much happiness.
 
well put. that is actually the only reason i can think of getting married before you're almost 40; having to chase kids around when you're in your 50's might suck but you can probably hire people to do that; other than that, I don't see any other problems with a long bachelorhood.
 
I totally disagree with the kid thing. It is better IMO to do your travelling and all your crazy stuff when you're young and can enjoy it. When you're 60 you just cannot do the same kinds of things and enjoy travel as much IMO. Having kids later may take more of your energy, but by the late 30's-ealry 40's if oyu have lived the hard life like Hornin and some of us you are ready to take it easy at home with the wife and kids. I guess in the end everyone has their different opinion and what is best differs for everyone. I know for me I wasn't mature enough to begin raising a child until 35.
 
2 things:

1) being 60 and 70 isnt what it used to be. those of you acting like you're trding time at the end of your life are just wrong - we are living longer, healthier lives. my grandfather looked like an "old man" by the time he was 60. he was visibly old. my father on the other hand, could probably stand up from wherever he is and run 5 miles rather quickly.

2) can i come to the wedding?
 
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