break up

[Anonymous]

about 5 months ago i met a girl and we hit it off right from the start. 2 weeks after we met we were officially together and things just got better from there. We talked about the future and how we wanted each other to be a part of each others future. We never fought about anything and i never hurt her emotionally or physically. I treated her like i loved her, which i did. All of our friends thought we had it made and i even started thinking she was the one. Then one day about a month and a half ago out of the blue she called me and said she didnt want to be my gf anymore....said she needed some space and still wanted to remain friends. I didnt like it but went along with it. 3 weeks later she started dating someone else and completly shut me out of her life. At times its been ok but there are other times where i just cant take it. I told her that i loved her (first girl i ever said that to) and that was the truth. Right now is one of those times where it hurts so much i just dont know what to do...dont get me wrong im not suicidal by any means i just am feeling depressed to the point that i cant sleep at night because all i can think about is her and what i could have done differently to make it work. Anyway prayers would be appreciated...thanks...

 

[Olhorn]

That is tough. Very tough. Many of us have been through that and most all of us can say only time can cure it, but it will. I will lift my prayers for those such as you who are hurting and I hope that before too long, the hurt will subside somewhat, and you will be on the trail to better times.

 

[Pimpology]

Whoa, I feel you buddy. In all seriousness, I went through something about 95% similar to what you described very recently. You're in my prayers, I hope it gets better. Its been about 6 weeks for me, and I still feel sick to my stomach when I hear her favorite song, see her favorite restaurant, the painting she bought for my birthday, etc. I found out yesterday she is putting herself back on the market, and it hurts. I hope time does heal these things, for both our sakes. My thoughts are with you.

 

[Anonymous]

UPDATE:

Thought I would update this request since a lot has changed since the time i put it in. I started doing counseling at my church because I did not want to get to the point that in my depressed state i might do something stupid. That helped immensely. I have actually had no problems sleeping or anything of that sort in quite some time because of her and to make things even better I am getting close to a girl that I almost hooked up with about 2 years ago but the timing wasn't right. This girl is everything I could ever ask for, she loves sports, hates chick flicks, and is very attractive to top it all off. The only downside is she is a diehard Aggie, but nobody is perfect. So I want to thank you for your prayers they have meant a lot to me...

 

[Anonymous]

Dude, that's awesome. I really hope that goes well for you man. Seeing that god gave you someone after your troubles etc, kinda gives me hope. I'm on my sidekick and cannot register yet, so my name is cameron. Well, here is my story, I'm an avid video game player, and this year, I set up my schedual to where I could just play videogames all day. Doing so, I made friends on the computer and made a couple good ones... and even started e dating one. She's awesome, se really is, we were sooo happy playing games with eachother, being on the phone for hours, planning to move next to eachother or even in with eachother, and all was well, I could honestly say that if this certain conflict came up, I would probably have married her. About a month in, (I'm a christian, of course) I asked what her religion was, and she said she was athiest. At that point I felt like I was falling, hardcore with questions in my head for almost 3 months trying to bear with it, seeing if I could make it work because I loved her that much. Basicly the questions were like How is this supposed to work? How am I supposed to be one with someone that condridicts my beliefs? And so yeah. We gather our strength from our beliefs, and as christians, we know god is true, the word belief doesn't cut it. I was dying inside, I could feel my strength being eeked away every single day. I talked to my pastor over the phone, balling my eyes out, and I knew inside me what I had to do, but he painted the picture. Break up with her. Do you know how hard it is to break up with someone that loves you to no end and you love to no end? I knew I would live in misery all my life because she didn't accept god, and I can't be one with someone that doesn't accept god, and neither should anyone else. My pastor told me a verse basicly saying about oxen pukking a hoe or something being unequally yoked, I didn't get it realy being the cali boy I am, but he explained it to me, and I realized that shed just drag me down. I broke up with her 2 nights ago and gahh it hurts so bad I feel so lonely x.x I have no will to do anything, I'm pushing myself to even finish my homework (I'm 18 a senior in hs) and so like yeah. I really hope god rewards me for being obediant to him, this hardcore, giving up the love of my life, which obviously she wasn't the love of my life. I can't wait to find the one, I really am putting all my trust in god now. I realise how hard it is to be a christian at times and follow god. Ahrgh. all your prayers will be extremely appretiated. Peace and love you all my brothers, cameron

 

[Mike_Tyson]

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[gobears92]

Congrats and many wishes and happiness!!

 

[MikeUT00]

Hope things have worked out well.