Abusive boyfriend

[Statalyzer]

I met a couple of sisters this past weekend who are friends with my g/f from way back. The younger one of them is in a relationship with a guy who is physically and verbally abusive to her and she just won't get out of it.
He's punched her in the face twice over the past month. He's incredibly possessive, he gets pissed off any time she spends free time with someone else, and I am not exaggerating. I saw some of the text messages he sent her, a lot of them are really vulgar and spiteful; I saw one that apparently came after a big argument in which she barely held back tears and it said "Are you crying yet, *****?"

The 4 of us (my g/f and the two sisters) were all out to eat and he called her up and asked her wtf she was doing out with us instead of him. So she tells us basically she has to go because she doesn't want him to get mad at her. She ended the call with "See you soon, sweetie, I love you."

We all tried to tell her to leave him. It's no use. I don't get it - it seems to happen often that girls just refuse to break up with someone who physically harms them, and I don't understand it. If she doesn't leave him soon I'm afraid she'll end up in the hospital.

 

[gobears92]

Stat- my sister went through this(with naval pilot)...he was ******* nuts...I was always gone and out to sea but my 4 other brothers did what I couldnt do...call the cops, social services, what-*******-ever....get her out now whatevr it takes...she does not understand yet(he still loves me or I can make hinm love me)...get her out of the situation and she shall know the truth...

 

[MikeUT00]

Sadly, this is not uncommon. I hope she leaves the ******* ... soon!

 

[gobears92]

prayers Stat..prayers...

 

[Anonymous]

well it is a sad situation and sometimes hard to understand. but i myself am in the same situation. my boyfriend is very possessive and jealous. he has to know my where abouts at all times. im so afraid to just leave cuz i know he will find me, it may all sound stupid to most to why we stay in these type of relationships but we just do. my boyfriend hits me then 5 min later asks me why i make him to this to me. and that all he wants to do is love me. its crazy i know. but it does happen. i have no friends. my whole time is spent on him and my kids. and no, he is not this way with my kids. he hides it from the kids. its all done behind closed doors. he controls his anger til we are alone. but all we can do is pray that they will change. but it dont make it right, i know this. i think we all do.

 

[C.L. McLovin]

It seems you are not over this person which puts the blame on you for not moving on. Also, please, the paragraph is your friend.

Stat, horrible and I hope things are progressing in a positive manner.

 

[amhart03]

I was in a similar situation once not too long ago. It's very hard for everyone involved- yes, even the jerk throwing the punches. Most of the time, that's what he had to face as a kid when he would come home. I will pray for you, her and her family. That is absolutely the best thing I can offer.

I'd also like to tell you what got me out, though. My friends simply asked me out for lunch and requested that I leave the cell in my car. It was as easy as that. There were plenty of texts and messages when I returned to the phone, but I didn't check them. He finally did get a hold of me that night and I unrepentantly told him where I was and who I was with and he broke it off. When I returned to school, he had already left several threatening messages to me and those close to me. I alerted campus security, asking them to watch for his vehicle and the rest is history. Security told the dean of students, who alerted my coaches, his coaches and security on his campus. She then helped me write a letter (which was cc'd to all of the afore mentioned people and the local police department) giving an ultimatum- leave me alone or I will take legal action immediately. And the great thing was, it worked! I haven't heard from him since and am now in a wonderful, God-centered, respectful and loving relationship with my best friend since the 10th grade. It turns out my friends, family and complete strangers were praying me through. I will be praying for you all. So, if nothing else, this message should give you some hope: Things can and do get better with God's help.