6 of one, half dozen of another.
Im not sure what modernity means, and if you use the USA as an example, Im sure our divorce rate and our modern view of women as sex objects, and women's views of their bodies as sex objects making them empowered is kinda F'ed up in the head.
I think traditional Christian values fall quite a bit in line with traditional Muslim values. The Quran states that you should respect your mother more than your father, that women are to be revered more than men.
That said, men beating their wives or taking advantage of them is bad, no matter what the religion or culture is.