Out of town weddings absolutely

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dalhorn1

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Suck when you're in the wedding party.

I've got to go to a good friend's wedding soon in a less than desired location. Me and girlfriend, two night hotel($300), airfare($500), tuxedo rental ($150--seriously???), plus incidentals. This is a flipping crime. I'm in for nearly $1k for this soirée, and I'm not even adding in the other $500 gosh darn bucks for the stupid-assed bachelor party that mustve been planned by a 6th grader

anyone else ever felt put off by having to take on these stupid costs when you'd much rather spend it on a vacation or paying down some mortgage?damn, with the time off to travel for it, it willend upbeing a "vacation", if you count staying somewhere that you would never choose to go on your own and eat where they choose and wear a suit you don't even own a vacation

I'm getting back at each of these pencildicks when it comes time for me to con them into taking a loan to have the privelege of attending my wedding
 
I know your venting, and it does kind of suck having to spend that money on something you rather not spend it on, but suck it up and be a friend. Apparently this guy is a good enough friend for him to invite you to be a part of the biggest day of his life, and you must feel the same because you accepted the offer. So be the friend he thinks you are and man up.

Most of us have been there and made the best of it, and I'm sure you will too.
 
Remember that the chances are great he had little to do with the actual planning of this whole thing. You likely won't either when it is your turn. If it were up to him you'd probably be at his backyard eating BBQ and doing nothing like what will be done for the wedding.

Your goal can be to make it fun for your people. I have been to only one wedding in my life where it was actually fun. It was on the other side of the planet but was amazed at the level of planning and thought that went into it being not only not boring but actually fun for people. The couple was ragged by the time it was over but damn, it was an amazing time and wedding.

Every one before that (with the exception of anybody I may know that reads the boards because your weddings here in Texas were awesome too!) weddings are sort of, well, they are weddings.
 
Agree with the original post. Had 2 such weddings in a three week span once when I was flatass broke. Almost made me resentful.
 
sorry guys, this is on the groom. If the groom wants, he takes control of the situation. I planned probably 90% of my wedding. I chose the chapel and reception location(both very close together, and very frugal. I chose the kind of cake for both cakes, chose the baker for both cakes, even found a pretty cheap motel in Austin for out of town guests.

She got to choose the flowers, dresses and food for the reception other than the cakes.

I rented a nice car for the getaway, we stayed in a suite in Austin the first night and got on the plane the next day. I picked the honeymoon.

totally lost control on how much we spent on the honeymoon, other than that, the costs were very small.
 
I had a "destination wedding". When you plan one this way, you do it with the understanding that people may not be able to go who you'd like to have there. I don't think you should feel obligated-- even if they've asked you to be in the bridal party-- if going is gonna put you out financially.

That being said, I don't think people should plan a wedding that's out of their friends' reasonable price range. Whether or not most people could afford to go to our wedding was a big consideration for us.

By having our wedding in New Orleans, we were able to have the whole thing-- food, booze-- literally everything-- for 3500. If you've ever planned a wedding in Austin, you know you can't get a location hardly for that price, let alone food and all. We worked out a deal where people got rooms and a 4 star hotel for 70 bucks a night, and since NO is within driving distance people didn't have to fly unless they wanted to. Most people took our wedding as an excuse to have a fun weekend get away- and we have some great stories!
 
I just found out i'm in for $180 tux rental next month AND playing guitar in the wedding as well. I guess I have to keep in mind that it isn't about "me" and is all about "them"?

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I've been in the tuxedo business for almost 30 years, and I've never rented a tux for $180. I have great quality stuff starting @ $79.95. F the big boy tux stores. Find a local independent.
 
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